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Since 2015, we have shared our journey with thousands of listeners. We have been fortunate enough to make lasting friendships along the way and thank those lifestylers that have gone before us, helping to pave the way in normalizing consensual non-monogamy.
Our Mission
To promote understanding through dialogue. We aim to engage our listeners and talk through the feelings that arise as we explore the swinging lifestyle together. We hope to make you laugh with our blunders, become aroused with our torrid tales, look inward with pensive introspection and hopefully realize that your relationship can be whatever you choose for it to be within your partnership.
ABOUT US
Welcome! We are Jay & Kay, your typical suburban "Couple Next Door". We've been married for nearly 20 years and together for over 22. We fell in love while in college, had three kids while moving all over the world and although we have always had a wonderfully fulfilling sex life, we began to have fantasy talk about threesomes and moresomes leading us to seek out podcasts that we would listen to while in bed together. These early lifestyle podcasts were few and far between only five years ago, but gave us the information and confidence we needed to take our first steps of exploration together so we decided to see what this swinging lifestyle was all about.
Our podcast follows our adventure from when we first dipped our toes in ethical non-monogamy until now, with real time reflections on our personal journey throughout. If you start from the beginning you will grow with us and see our views change as we grasp a greater understanding of how powerful friendships can become when you let down walls and inhibitions. We've been having the most wonderful time getting to know some amazing people. We made the decision to be as honest as we could about the experiences, which at times involves exposing our mishaps, but we think it's important to confront our mistakes so we can become even better communicators and strengthen our already solid relationship.
If you met us outside the lifestyle, you might never guess that we have this secret, but every now and then, we are lucky enough to meet like-minded friends for some sexy adventures in the swinging lifestyle and we're having an amazing time doing it! Come along with us on our journey and enjoy!
Jay & Kay
If you enjoy our podcast and would like to support us for as little as $1/month please support us through Patreon by clicking the link above.
Benefits include a private blog, access to our chat community on MeWe and behind the scenes information and images with each episode release!
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WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING ABOUT US
“These two are fun and entertaining to listen to. Love their transparency and unapologetic thoughts and opinions.”
“Such a great podcast about what the “lifestyle” really is about. They keep it real and honest yet sexy and fun. Love it, keep it a red light night!”
“So far I am a fan! A vanilla fan, but a fan none the less. I love the dialogue between you two and the feeling of going on this journey with you guys, not to mention the introduction to the RED LIGHT in the bedroom. Trust me when they say it’s amazing. Looking forward to trying out the sensations game you guys talked about soon. Keep up the good work!”
“This is one HOT podcast!! This is a couple that tells it like it is in a lifestyle where that gets pretty steamy! What a fun podcast!”
“Jay and Kay seem like a smart, fun couple and they give a refreshingly complete and honest account of what it’s like to be in the lifestyle. There are plenty of sexy stories, made all the more interesting and helpful by the fact that they include their missteps and misadventures along with all the fun stuff.”
“The wife and I eagerly await every new podcast. We have just started the quest for a male to join us. Learning so much from your experiences. Thank you and please don’t stop podcasting. The Desire podcast is worth listening to twice, honest talk. Thank you and keep them coming.”
“This is a fun and sexy podcast. The best in the subject matter. Kay has a sweet but very sexy voice that makes everything sound so much fun. Jay keeps mentioning he can’t believe he is living this life. I would be pinching myself too! Keep the stories coming. I wait for each podcast release and then sometimes wait to listen to it, finding the right time so it can be savored. Thanks!”
“We love listening to That Couple Next Door. Their back & forth banter always provides an entertaining and insightful listen. They are a genuine resource for the swinging community. Keep up the awesome job of helping new swingers and helping veteran swingers connected with the swinging lifestyle.”
“Crank the AC up to 11, it’s going to get hot. Really, really HOT!!! I don’t care if it’s February and you live in North Dakota, turn up the AC!!! Jay & Kay are wonderful, thoughtful, fun & sexxxxxy!!! They share their wild adventures and take you along for the ride! Don’t miss a word, every podcast is awesome! If you’re listening while driving, I suggest getting in the right lane, take it easy and take your time. Let others zip their way to work. Too many red lights on your commute? Not any more! You’ll learn to love them, trust me! You’ll be on an awesome ride!”
Some of Our favorite moments
Attending Naughty in Nawlin's 2016 and meeting many fellow podcasters.
Our first trip to Desire in February 2018.
Meeting our first fans!
Establishing friendships that have extended far beyond the bedroom.
Learning more about ourselves and gaining the courage to share our wants and desires.
Kay's 40th birthday orgy
Kay's first MFM and single male experience (she say's it's a tie).
